Labeled: Tyrant

I have been in a somewhat grumpy mood this week. I blame it on my very good friend Ellen as we seem to be psychically linked somehow and I get to share in the joys of PMS with her. Then I go to check my email this morning and see an email from someone that has labeled me a tyrant. Ive never been called a tyrant before. Should I be offended or take it as a compliment? Is it befitting? Lets see... according to Websters Dictionary:

ty•rant
Pronunciation: 'tI-rAnt
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English tirant, from Old French tyran, tyrant, from Latin tyrannus, from Greek tyrannos
1 a : an absolute ruler unrestrained by law or constitution b : a usurper of sovereignty
2 a : a ruler who exercises absolute power oppressively or brutally b : one resembling an oppressive ruler in the harsh use of authority or power

Hmmm Im not a ruler of anything with the exception maybe of my meager little townhouse... but even then I am making payments to my mortgage company. So.. that doesnt exactly fit. I dont hold any sort of political office ... yet... not even with my HOA. I guess you could count my dog as someone I rule over.. nah... he's too happy to feel tyranized.

So what could I have possibly said or done for someone to call me a tyrant? Im baffled myself. So I read the rest of the email and the comments made. Then it hit me... Im a tyrant because I actually want to encourage responsibility. Responsibility.. is a forgotten concept I think. It would appear that "Anonymous" doesnt agree. So is it my political views "she" doesnt agree with, or my views on abortion - or the responsibility we should take for our choices we make in life.

So... instead of re-hashing over and over again my position on abortion (which seems to be what is really being argued here).. Ill just plainly play the good tyrant.. err I mean guy and just answer "her" questions and reply to comments as best I can because "Anonymous" miserably tried to use many comparisons to my views on abortion that had nothing to do with abortion. I know.. Im confused too. So here we go.

I can't help thinking what a tyrant you sound - make a woman give birth to a child she doesn't want? Come off it, will you! Why not 25 children she doesn't want? Why not invade Iraq?

Did she and her mate make a conscious decision to have sex that resulted in 25 children? I would probably say yes. And I would also probably say they are also the last people that should be replicating too. It’s about the choice the couple made (again... assuming it was consensual). Accident or not, the choice was made... they should accept responsibility EQUALLY for those actions. So is your basic argument that we should not take responsibility for our actions? That’s even scarier to hear than my view on abortion. Oh and what does Iraq have anything to do with this? Next question?

Oh, look, put it this way - Say you have an ex-partner. They qualify as a doctor. They like you, are on good terms with you, yada, yada, once a year card at Xmas.

Here's the thing. What if they had the right to bring you to the doctor for a checkup, nine months after you broke up?

Assuming its because she's pregnant and there is without a doubt his child... They both made their bed, time to lie in it - together. The concept of responsibility seems to allude you. But I would have to ask.. did she TELL him she was pregnant before then? If he did know all along.. and he desserted her for this length of time.. then he made his decision... whatever happened at that point was her decision to make. Its a shitty deal if that were the case... no doubt. But you dont seem to willing to look at this issue from both points of view. Im giving each party equal responsibility.... both with a choice to make - hopefully together. Your saying... oh well yes.. we had great sex.. and yes.. you got me pregnant.. but.. Im sorry.. its up to me to decide whether your a father or Im a mother. I know its not a perfect world we live in, I am purely saying this is how it SHOULD... and CAN be. It just takes work.. and communication between both parties.

How about a biopsy on those dark moles? A session with a therapist about your habit of chewing your nails? Drop a couple of leeches on you, to purify your blood? Yeah, right. Hopefully they wouldn't dislike you enough to be so indifferent or sadistic. And an ideal world means that life isn't a popularity contest.

These are issues that are usually related to a singular person. Not the result of two people's choice(s) and mutual actions. Therefore, because no one else is equally to blame, it’s the choice of the individual assuming no one else is being harmed in the matter.

Im going to go out on a limb and guess that you are referring to government intervention of some sort or another or forcing you or any other woman to essentially turn you into a baby making machine. Well because biologically speaking, you are. Sorry.. thats the way nature intended it. Dont blame me or the rest of the male species for that. Men=farmer; women=crop. Crude way of putting it, but none the less true. And no I dont think women exist solely to be barefoot and pregnant. Its just purely a biological metaphor so dont get your lace thong in a wad. Now as far as someone making the fem-dom do something against their will – Im not suggesting that at all….. entirely. There are only two people that have a say so in the matter at hand… that is the parents of the child (again assuming its consensual). This is where my version of pro-choice comes into play. It’s the choice of the parents… vs the choice of only the mother. Need a lesson on the birds and the bees? I would hope not. OK… so.. lets say theres a problem with the health of the mother. Well then the parents need to come to a mutual agreement.. and lets just hope that.. well.. the father isn’t so self-centered as to force her to still have the child to put her life at risk. In fact.. in that instance, I would say the mother then has a solitary decision in the matter.

Or .., what if they could have a law that made you have a circumcision, whether or not you and your current partner wanted one? Ouch! None of these things have anything to do with you - and they are all relatively minor, painless, elective procedures which "are probably for your own good". Aren't they?

Hold on a second. What has any partner got to say about another person having a circumcision? Right? Sure, right now, right. But ... What if it's for somebody's good? Or god. Should you have the right to walk out and say that you don't care to go through this? Or something that hurts a Lot worse?

Nice try on the low blow darling, but it ain’t gonna work with me. Why? Because I am circumcised. I cant miss anything I don’t ever remember having. But, you actually help me to make another one of my points. That point is this, couple does the nasty, they work together to come to a mutual conclusion on the arrangement of the “family” (ding)… said “family” has decided on whether to circumcise or not. (ding ding) WOW! You mean.. people can actually communicate.. AND can work together towards a mutual understanding? Whoever invented that concept should like win a Nobel Peace Prize or something!

Not, you say, if someone, somewhere, has a superstitious notion that it might do good. Pain equals good. So long as it is being imposed on someone else.

Hey.. some people enjoy pain, so dont knock it unless youve tried it. And for those that feel like pain is being unfairly imposed by my idea of “pro-choice”… perhaps they should have considered that before having sex if they didn’t wanna take EQUAL responsibility for whatever may happen afterwards.

Examine your reasons, please! Pluck your eyebrows. Tell me you don't mind the class bully doing it too - to you. Now, what was that about having ma baby?

Eww.. Nooooo thank you. When or IF I were to ever subject my offspring to this world – not that I ever plan on that happening- I would want to make sure the mother of MY child was well educated and had a sense of… responsibility.